I have read numerous articles recently about the effect of our weight on the likelihood of getting Covid and the impact our weight might have on the effectiveness of the vaccine.  These are worrying times for many of us, as well as those who have a BMI above normal.  And this information adds to the stress already felt by many people who would like to lose weight.

It’s a double whammy because many overweight people struggle to lose weight AND keep it off long term.  Many diet regimes can help you lose weight in the short term.  But we know that within 18 months, most people regain all the weight they have lost, and more.  Why? – because it’s just not easy.  In fact, losing weight for the long term is very hard for most people.  It is hard on so many levels.

Manufactures tempt us with adverts full of sugary or high fat processed foods. Not just occasionally, but all the time.  The television and internet are packed full of food adverts showing indulgent chocolates, juicy burgers, and pizza’s dripping with cheese laden toppings.  All are promising to make us feel better.  But that feel good feeling does not last.  It’s a sticking plaster, a short-term fix. Guilt soon steps in.

To make matters worse, we have lots of confusing diet messages.  I am sure that you have seen the social media adverts stating, ‘5 foods you must NOT eat’ and ‘5 miracle foods you MUST eat’.  And there are so many diet plans on offer that it becomes confusing to know which plans work and which don’t.

No wonder we feel so GUILTY!!!!

But stop right there because being tempted by sugary foods and succumbing to the temptation is not your fault.

It is our bodies job to keep us alive, and if we are not getting the nutrition that we need, our bodies will make us find food.  If we eat high sugar or processed foods, we have a great sugar hit that makes us feel good.  And our brains are wired to want more and more of that feel good feeling.

But diets do not overcome the problem of emotional eating.  This is the stumbling block after we have lost a lot of weight.  We use food for more than just fuel.  We use it to cope with stress too. Emotional stress, physical stress due to dehydration, stress because we are tired, and the list goes on.  A quick food fix gives us a short-term solution. It helps us to overcome the immediate problem.  But it does not solve the longer-term emotional problem.

That is why I work with clients to help them find ways to beat emotional eating and enjoy nutritious, healthy foods.  It is a win-win situation – people feel great about themselves and feel great because of the healthy, tasty food they eat.

To find out more about the Eat Better Naturally system, email jane@janephillipscoaching.co.uk

Top Tips for picking your coach.

What area does the coach specialise in?
It could be executive coaching, life coaching, sport, nutrition, performance, industry specific, and so many more areas.  And don’t forget that a coach is different from a counsellor.  If your issues are deeply emotional, is long standing and has become ingrained, it could be that a counsellor is closer to what you need.  Once you know what the coach specialises in, you can see if it meets your need.

You will get out what you put in.
How important is the issue for you?  The reason why I ask is that just chatting to a coach is unlikely to fix your problem.  You will need to do some homework.  You will need time to implement the actions you have discussed and prepare for your next coaching session.

Do you connect?
Is there chemistry between you and the coach?   You need to be able to say anything to your coach without feeling judged.  Do you feel the coach has a deep understanding of your problem?  They don’t need to have been in your situation, but they need to have empathy.  Do you think you will get on with your coach?  If your gut feeling is that you don’t think you can really work with this coach – then don’t.

Speak to more than one coach.
All coaches are different.  Some teach a range of methods methods, such as NLP, holistic, CBT, but then add their own experience and delivery method.  Make sure it feels right for you.

Ask questions about how they deliver their coaching.
Is it one to one?  Do you need to have several sessions?  How frequently will these happen?  And of course, how much do they charge?

Do you have confidence in their abilities?
Were they recommended, are they accredited, do they have case studies they can share with you?

Don’t forget that the coach also needs to feel that they can help you.  A good coach will be honest and tell you if they feel that they are not the right coach for you.

Good Luck in finding your perfect coach.
 

Did you know…..

• Women over 50 years are more likely to experience burn out at work.
• Working over 40 hours a week puts you at higher risk of burnout (research from Aragon Institute of Health Sciences).
• A survey by microbizmag found that 22% of respondents had experienced job related burnout.

So, you might ask, what is burn out and do I have it?
The World Health Organisation defines burnout as:
“the result of chronic workplace stress that has not been successfully managed.”
 
Stress is the precursor to burnout.  But when stress has been going on for some time, and you have been unable to deal with it, it is not your fault.  We all experience stress every day.  That is normal and even healthy under the right circumstances.  But the type of stress that leads to burnout has not been managed properly.  That might be because your problem has not been recognised, you haven’t received the right support or, you just don’t have the right tools and resources to help yourself cope.
I remember when burnout was not acknowledged, and people were embarrassed to admit that they were struggling to cope.  So, it’s great to know that larger organisations in the UK have programs to help the staff deal with the chronic stress that causes burnout.
But what if you are a small company owner or perhaps are a sole trader?  Then you might not have the tools or the time to help yourself.  The pressure of the bottom line might overshadow your wellbeing.
When we suffer from burnout, it shows itself in several ways.  Here are just some of them;

• Struggling to get things done.
• Putting things off or prevaricating.
• Being unable to make a clear decision.
• Feeling that your work is out of control.
• Feeling like your voice and your opinion is not being heard.
• A feeling of panic rising in your chest or a tightness in your throat.

We can go on coping and coping and coping.  And then one day, our bodies or our brains say enough is enough. And burnout hits you full on.
Many things can help you to avoid burnout.  But you need to adopt long term changes.  The sticking plaster approach will not work for long, but it can help achieve a short term quick fix.  Here are some suggestions.

• Turning off those incessant email alerts
• Achieve no more than 2 ‘MUST DO’s each day.  The ones that move your business forward
• Making sure you balance work and home life
• Not looking at the screen and social media before you go to bed
• Take regular breaks from the screen and get some fresh air

But to cope with long term stress, I have developed my powerful Six Steps to Avoid Stress model.

SSAS - Six Steps to Avoid Stress 

1. Reduce unnecessary stress.

You will experience areas of conflict, sometimes between home and work, sometimes between different priorities at work.Make different choices to avoid these obvious areas of conflict, stress and anxiety.In the short term, that might include reviewing priorities and deadlines.In the long term, this might include a change in career or leaving a destructive relationship.

1. Release negative stress.

Some stress is positive, but some stress cannot be dealt with by channelling into activity. It can become excessive.This is negative stress. You can reduce it by controlled venting, relaxation techniques or seeking emotional support from a friend or family member.

1. Channel stress into positive activity

When stress does begin to build, channel it.Complete the task that is causing stress.But if the stress is outside of your control, channel it into a achieving a different goal. Rise to the challenge you have set yourself.

1. Plan for the future.

Having a plan will help to cope with stress because you will feel more in control.Aim for the goals that you have set yourself.Be prepared to be flexible.

1. Increase your resources.

Stress can creep up on us unexpectedly. But we can see more stress coming before it arrives.Such as a deadline, Christmas, an increase in workload for a period of time.So stress tends to come in batches and periods.Keep an eye on your horizon and when you see stressful situations looming, take action to increase your ability to cope.Improve your diet, increase your nutritional supplements, get plenty of sleep, exercise, give yourself some YOU time, increase your emotional or professional support networks.Do not try to cope alone with your usual level of resources – increase them.

1. Address your emotional and mental wellbeing.

Think about what your stress trigger is.When does it happen, where does it happen?Is there a particular person or situation that triggers it?When you have identified your trigger and when it is likely to happen, think about what you can change to stop it from happening.
Your employees
Do you manage a team of people?  Managers of employees can make a massive impact on staff welfare and their ability to cope with stress.  Recognising the signs of stress in your team and reduce the likelihood of burnout.

• Keep an eye on the hours staff are working
• Set a good example with the hours you work.
• Promote healthy habits among staff
• Encourage regular exercise.
• Ensure employees don’t sit at their desks for too long.
• Make sure people can talk to their line manager.
• Set up routine informal chats with individual team members, as well as team meetings
• Promote mental health days.
• Ensure staff take their annual leave.

Introducing the ‘SSAS - Six Steps to Avoid Stress’ model at work or in your personal life will make a significant impact on your ability to cope with stress and prevent negative stress from turning into burnout.

I noticed in the papers recently a picture of Adele having lost a significant amount of weight.  First, let me say that the ideal weight is an individual thing and I do not criticise or judge anyone for the weight they choose to be.  However, I am sure that Adele is feeling better because of the health benefits she will be experiencing.  I congratulate Adele because it takes hard work, determination, and a commitment to self-care, to lose weight and I genuinely hope she can maintain her new weight.
And there is the crunch – for many of us who lose weight, keeping weight off is the biggest challenge.  That’s why dieting doesn’t work.  To clarify that statement, diets do not work in the long term.  Many of us experience weight loss which is followed by weight gain.  It might be 3 months later or 6 months later, but for many of us something happens to send us running back to our old eating habits.  Sounds familiar?  I too have been in that camp many times, until I understood what really needed to change in order to keep weight off.  I believe it takes four things and eating the right foods is only one of those.
It takes self-care and self-love.
It takes a long-term change in our approach to food.
It takes the ability to listen to what our bodies are telling us.
Poor eating habits can often mask other issues that we have.  We use food as a comfort blanket during difficult times, from serious stress down to the stress of boredom or tiredness. Dealing with the root problem of anxiety, boredom or whatever it is that makes you turn to food for support is THE long-term fix for maintaining healthy eating.
Understanding the role that food plays for us in our lives vitally important.  How we can use it to our advantage or disadvantage and what is really going on with our self-esteem.
Did you know that it can take 9 months to change a long-term habit?  Our poor eating habits are usually long-term habits.  So, changing them takes commitment.  This is one of the reasons why diets don’t work in the long term.  It is so easy to think that we can adopt new healthy eating habits over a couple of weeks.  The truth is, it takes a lot longer.
Our bodies are our best friends.  Say hello to your new best friend.  A best friend only wants the best for you, to help you and support you.  Our body wants the very best for us.  We are built to keep ourselves as healthy as possible.  Let’s face it, our bodies are amazing – they self-heal when we cut ourselves and they rebalance the sugar in our bodies to protect our organs.  Our bodies tell us when we are full and how much to eat.  Many of us have forgotten how to listen to our bodies and have become used to the supersizing of portions.  Bigger plates, bigger glasses, bigger portion size.  But our poor bodies can still only deal with so much.  Our bodies will seek out the nutrients in the food we eat and let us know when we have had enough.  But some of us have forgotten how to listen to that.
The Feel Better Naturally Nutritional Coaching teaches you;

1. Self-Care.
2. How to identify why they have a poor relationship with food.
3. How to build your resilience to cravings and to reduce them altogether.
4. How to listen to your body and give it what it needs.
   

Personal resilience requires a sense of self-worth, self-esteem and self-belief.  It requires a good support network from those who are understanding. It needs the ability to cope with change – each day is different in lockdown.  Every day we feel different, and every day can throw the unexpected at us.
Self Esteem
Self-esteem comes from an understanding of who we are.  It also comes from an acceptance of ourselves, just the way we are right now.  We are perfect in our imperfection.  Give yourself permission to fail but at the same time, be accountable for that decision.
Support Networks
A good support network is essential during lockdown.  We are social animals, and a lack of social interaction has a massive impact on mental health, our wellbeing, our eating and drinking habits and on our physical wellbeing. Both extroverts and introverts need to be in touch with people for work and social purposes.
Give and Take
There is joy in making someone else happy.  That might mean ensuring someone else has time for themselves, giving an act of kindness, or spending time with someone in need of company (in person or remotely).  Not only will they feel happier, but you will feel happier too.  Spend time with people who make you feel better and avoid toxic people who make you feel bad about yourself or bring out the worst in you.
Let It Go
When many aspects of our lives are beyond our control due to lockdown restrictions, it is common to exert more control in other areas of our life.  Decide what is really important to have control over and be more relaxed about the things that are not.  Take a deep breath and let it go.  It will help to keep things in perspective.
TOP LOCKDOWN SURVIVAL TIPS

1. You know yourself better than anyone else. Listen to intuition.
2. Imperfect is the New Perfection.  Be Imperfect.
3. Give yourself permission to fail – recognise your limits, recognise that you are not perfect.
4. Ask for Support when you need it.
5. Be committed to Your self-care.  Self-care takes hard work and commitment, but you deserve it.
6. Put boundaries in place – It will make your self-care easier.
7. Play to your strengths – Do the things that you do best.
8. Choose your battles. Don’t make a problem bigger than it really is.
9. Be kind to yourself.
10. Recognise your best time – if you are not a morning person, don’t force yourself to do Exercise first thing.  Just because someone else does it, does not mean it is right for you.

© Jane Phillips Coaching

Did you make some New Year’s Resolution for 2021?  Are you keeping to them so far?  Do you choose something different every year, or is it the same New Year’s Resolution every year?  Does it feel a bit like Ground Hog Day?  And do you achieve your goal or see your New Year’s Resolution through to the end of the year?  Did you know that most people set a new year’s resolution and fail to keep to it?
Polls run for Bupa and YouGov show that 32% of Britons make a New Year resolution and guess what.  Losing weight and getting fitter are the top priorities.
For years, no actually, for decades, I had the same two New Year’s resolutions.  And yes, you’ve guessed it.  They were;

1. Lose Weight
2. Get Fit

So clearly, I was among great company, because that’s what most other people were choosing.  But I was one of the great failures.  66% of people who make a New Years Resolution break it within the first month. Why is that?  For me, it was because I was concentrating on the wrong thing.  I was focusing on the scales, not on the quality of food that I was eating.  I was trying to eat as much as possible and still lose weight without thinking about the nutrition that I needed.  I was trying to go from zero exercise to being a marathon runner in one day, and being massively disappointed when I failed.
When it comes to diet and nutrition, people want a miracle cure and ask too much of themselves.  They either try to make too many changes or make changes that are too big.  And so, we set ourselves up to fail.  Healthy eating is a lifestyle choice, and it starts with small changes and no dieting.  When I stopped concentrating on diet food, I started to lose weight.
Since 2008, my new year’s resolution has been To Be Kinder to myself.  And when I am kinder to myself, I forgive myself when I am not perfect, or do not make the ideal food choices.  I also find that by being kinder to myself, I am also kinder to others.  Oh yes, and I am several stone lighter too.

  How did you cope with lockdown #1?

This series of daily podcasts throughout lockdown #2 aims to help you cope better with the unique pressures placed upon us in these current times.

Full of hints and tips, I will cover a variety of topics from work, your life and diet and nutrition to help you secure your success, become your best self and feel better naturally.

Available on Breaker, Google Podcasts, Pocket Casts, Radio Public, Anchor and Spotify.  Here is the spotify link.  I hope you enjoy.

https://open.spotify.com/show/5ngnIAQkp0FeKr2oKiHxsz

An overwhelming desire to help others, coupled with her own serious health scare, has led to a Somerset woman launching her own coaching business to help organisations and individuals reach their full potential.
 
Jane Phillips who lives in Wellington, Somerset has set up Jane Phillips Coaching and Feel Better Naturally to offer both coaching and mentoring support to help people get more out of life and to both set and achieve their goals.
 
A trained nutritionist, as well as an experienced life and executive coach, Jane and her team offer a wide range of courses, from business planning, motivation coaching to stress workshops, wellbeing checks and relaxation techniques.
 
“Major heart surgery in 1990 made me reassess my life and I felt the need to make a difference. I took a career break when my son was born and then worked as a slimming consultant as I had always been interested in nutrition and had struggled with my own weight issues,” said Jane.
 
“From there I trained as a reflexologist then moved into the charity sector, working as a fundraiser for various charities before becoming a fundraising consultant, helping with strategies and bid-writing and eventually evolving into Jane Phillips Consulting,” she explained.
 
Jane, who is married with one son, is adamant that to be truly successful – and happy – a balance must be struck between the body, the brain and nutrition going hand-in-hand. 
Through her work, she aims to help people navigate unwelcome changes and discover long-term holistic solutions through a combination of mentoring and executive coaching.
 
“I believe that you cannot be happy with your work if you are unhappy with yourself and you cannot be happy with yourself if you are unhappy with work.
 
“I want to give people the clarity to make the right decisions and to find their own, individually-tailored, long-term solutions so they can feel better naturally and succeed,” Jane said.
 
With the ongoing pandemic, Jane is offering her services virtually via Zoom, while her website https://www.janephillipscoaching.co.uk/ and Facebook page features blogs and podcasts, as well as information about strategic planning, financial sustainability, training courses and mentoring services.
 
Jane is also offering a free, initial 30-minute consultation to help you start the journey towards a happier and more successful future.

​Recently I (and my dog Belle) drove from Devon to Tintern Abbey to meet and spend the day with a couple of friends.  Despite the trials of the M5, the journey went fairly smoothly.  But two things happened that started me thinking about my lovely clients and their beneficiaries.

The first thought occurred to me as I saw the roadworks sign that read: Await Rescue – Free Recovery.  I have helped many different people via the charities and social enterprises I have supported.  They range from homeless people, older people, those with debt problems, children with special needs, those isolated and those lonely.  And whilst these issues are very different, for the vast majority of the beneficiaries they have reached the point in their lives where they have done all they can to help themselves and now they need someone or some organisation to help to ‘Rescue’ them.  And by in large that help is Free or greatly reduced in cost.

The next thing that happened on my journey was that shortly after reading the sign, whilst still driving through the roadworks, an HGV passed me and then abruptly pulled into the inside lane in front of me.  The load on his lorry teetered back and forth precariously, I held my breath until it recovered its balance.   Within seconds it pulled out again, the load swayed, it overtook the next vehicle and pulled in again, the load wobbled, teetered and as I held my breath for a second time, finally settled.  The driver repeated this again and again, weaving through the narrow lanes of the roadworks, each time on the verge of causing chaos.  Having done a lot of motorway driving I am pretty thick-skinned, but this driving caused me to cry out in alarm.

I thought about the traffic and how our lives were like it.  We pass through life, usually gently with few ripples, going up or down a gear as needed, avoiding obstacles in our way without causing too much distress to other people.  But sometimes our journey through life is more chaotic, more precarious and challenges affect us and our loved ones dramatically.  Sometimes we are that HGV driver.

The charities and social enterprises I work with make a clear difference to those they aim to help through the support they offer.  Many charities and social enterprises are very good at celebrating and communicating the difference they make, using impact reports based on recording and measuring.  But others find it harder to do so because time and resource make it too difficult to capture that information.
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Being once removed from the immediate beneficiaries, I have started to think about the impact we make to client’s beneficiaries.  Over my career I have raised a huge amount for charities both nationally and in the South West, but it is about so much more than numbers.  It is about the difference Jane Phillips Coaching makes and the changes we bring about and how we engage with people to make that happen.
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There is an increasing need for organisations to have a Theory of Change Model that explains not just the changes they bring about but also the precursors that enable them to do that.  A Theory of Change model starts with the end result achieved by a project and works backwards to explain what needs to be put in place to make that happen.  It helps to work out what has been termed as the ‘missing middle’ – the ‘how’ bit between what an organisation does and the result it achieves.

​An increasing number of funders are asking charities and social enterprises to develop a Theory of Change model. Whilst I have developed a Theory of Change with some clients, I have not developed one for Jane Phillips Coaching Ltd.   So shall be developing my Theory of Change model shortly and I look forward to sharing it with you in a future blog.